Welcome to part five of our series, "You are not a victim, you're a mom!"Today we're talking about Triggers! Those things your children do that cause you to explode.
Do you believe your struggle with anger stems from your children's wrong behavior? I know how easy it is to play that victim card!
"If you would just listen, I wouldn't have to yell to get your attention!"
They do something, say something - or don't do and say what you've asked them to. They push your buttons and trigger in you a terrible reaction.
"If only they would behave right, I wouldn't have to behave so wrong!"
Yes, that's it! We need someone to write a book and tell us how to get them to behave, so that we can too! Make it a book full of simple solutions to help our children honor and obey,
sit quietly at the table,
stay in bed after they're tucked in,
stack their shoes neatly by the door,
use inside voices,
and not throw grocery store fits!
My dear friend, Amber Lia and I did write a book, and it is all about the things our children do that make us angry. However, and this is key, we believe that God is more concerned with our maturity than our children's lack of maturity. After all, they are the children and we are the adults. Therefore, Triggers is focused 99.9% on retraining the parent's heart, rather than the heart of the child.
Amber and I have found that parents' knee-jerk reactions and blow-ups are often a direct result of a bigger set of “triggers.” Some of these are external, like their child’s disobedience, backtalk, or selective hearing, while others are internal, like an overflowing schedule, sleep-deprivation, or perhaps a mom or dad's own painful experiences from childhood. Those deep seeded hurts can flare up in an unholy minute!
Triggers: Exchanging Parent’s Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses examines these common parenting issues that cause us to explode inappropriately at our children. Moving beyond simple parenting tips about how to change your child’s behavior, Triggers offer biblical insight and practical tools to equip and encourage you on the journey away from anger-filled reactions toward gentle, Biblical responses.
Triggers offers 31 short, consumable chapters to help you tackle one problem area a day over the course of a month. And since each chapter is listed by topic, it's easy to turn back to this book as a resource again and again.
If you struggle with anger in your home from the sheer effort of it all, if you find yourself yelling at your little ones, feeling like a victim, and weighed down by shame, you’re not alone. We've written this book just for you. TRIGGERS: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions For Gentle Biblical Responses addresses the things our children do, along with the internal pressures of motherhood, that trigger in us angry reactions rather than gentle Biblical responses.